Here’s the truth: it’s nearly impossible to heal what you can’t even feel. So many of us drift through life repeating the same year over and over—habits, beliefs, emotional loops—that keep us stuck. We become strangers to ourselves, disconnected from what’s happening inside. And when we’re out of tune with ourselves, it colors how we see the world and how we connect with others.
But here’s the good news: it doesn’t have to stay that way.
Transformative healing starts with one powerful, deceptively simple practice: awareness. You can’t change what you don’t notice. So the very first question to ask yourself each day is: How do I feel? Are you judging someone because of who they are—or because you’re secretly judging yourself?
Awareness isn’t passive observation. It’s the first spark of authentic self-expression. And no, that doesn’t mean you have to become an artist. Expression is any act that lets your inner world see the light of day. Write a few honest lines in a journal. Spend time in the garden with your hands in the soil. Cook a meal with intention and no interruptions. Create space where your mind can roam, and your truth can rise.
And remember this: transformation doesn’t always come from a 180-degree life overhaul. That’s often too overwhelming—and unsustainable. Healing and change happen in tiny pivots, one or two degrees at a time. A gentle shift in perspective, a new habit, a small act of courage. Those small pivots add up and steer you into new territory over time.
But here’s the catch: comparison kills possibility. The fastest way to derail your healing journey is to measure your progress against someone else’s highlight reel. The only comparison that matters is you to you. Are you more aware than you were yesterday? Are you allowing even a sliver more self-expression? That’s progress.
When you stay rooted in awareness, when you give yourself permission to pivot instead of overhaul, when you let go of perfection and comparison—you enter the most powerful state there is: possibility. You open doors you didn’t know existed. You become available to new experiences, new connections, and new versions of yourself that were once invisible.
So today, ask yourself: How do I feel? What tiny pivot could I make? And where might authentic expression lead me next?
Because transformative healing isn’t about changing who you are—it’s about finally letting the real you come alive.
Watch Erika Page share more about the power of self-expression and transformative healing at WHC’s The BEST of LIFE Summit on my YouTube channel here.
