Want to know a powerful performance enhancer for women that most of us were never taught to tap into? Sexual confidence.
Yes—when you know your body, understand your anatomy, and release shame around your desires, you access a kind of clarity, power, and agency that carries into every area of your life.
From career decisions to your relationships, to how you speak up in a room—sexual agency isn’t about pleasing anyone else. It’s about knowing what you want, how to ask for it, and not apologizing for taking up space. This kind of confidence? It’s unstoppable.
But here’s the catch: most women were raised in a culture that didn’t teach us our own anatomy, let alone how to advocate for our pleasure. We were told vaginas were “dirty” or needed to be masked with perfume. We weren’t handed mirrors, we weren’t shown our clitoris, and many of us still aren’t sure where it is. That’s not shameful—that’s systemic. But we can change it.
Here’s what’s in it for you:
- When you prioritize sexual wellness (like you would with physical fitness), you build body awareness that improves everything from intimacy to self-confidence.
- When you normalize talking about sex (especially with other women), you create a culture of support where celebration and healing coexist.
- When you learn to articulate your needs and boundaries in the bedroom, you reinforce your ability to do so in boardrooms, classrooms, and beyond.
And no—this isn’t just about sex for sex’s sake. Think of your sexuality the way you think about exercise. You don’t wait around for “motivation” to work out. You commit to your health and show up for it. Your sex life deserves the same intentionality.
So here’s what to do next:
- Reclaim your anatomy. Get a mirror. Learn your parts. Ask your provider to show you your clitoris. This isn’t indulgent—it’s essential.
- Make lube your friend. It’s not optional. It’s basic body respect, especially as estrogen levels shift.
- Schedule intimacy. It’s not unsexy—it’s realistic. Just like any other priority, it deserves a place on your calendar.
- Create a circle of real talk. Start with one trusted friend. Normalize sharing the wins and the heartbreaks of your intimate life.
- Teach your daughters (and your inner younger self). Invite them into healthy conversations early. Show them their sacred feminine is something to honor, not hide.
This isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about becoming more you. And when women are connected to their own pleasure and power—they don’t just glow, they lead.
Catch the full conversation from our HOT Off Your Health panel at the WHC The Best of Life Virtual Summit on our YouTube channel. with Dr. Juliana Hauser, Dr. Kelly Casperson, and Gerieanne DiPiano on my YouTube channel.
